Friday, February 5, 2010

"Moving Forward - And Using Stress As The Engine"

Dear Friend,

Stress has two forms:

Distress: the negative energy which is a toxin in your body

Eustress: which is like an elixir - it's energy, it's riveting. It's a stress or excitement that makes you smile. Eustress is a pleasant feeling of gratification.

Unfortunately, most of us allow eustress to dissapear shortly after it arrives. And then it's gone. In most cases, forever... Until we have that experience again.

Distress keeps coming. And worse, distress doesn't go away. It can hound you for hours, even after the source has come and gone.


You and I take good things for granted. We allow all the bad and negativity in our life to take up a greater role.

Aren't we always eager to talk about how we had the worst experience at the doctor? Or the fair? Or anything?

We always seem to compare notes on who had the shortest straw.

The problem is letting the bad endure. Not filing it away and letting it go.
When something good happens, it last around 4 minutes. Then we're done with it, and on to the next horror story.

Napoleon Hill, famous for writing Think and Grow Rich, said that it's important to "let go" of the past. What's important is that you learn your lesson and move on.

So try this: next time you're distress, think back. Remember a situation of eustress, and change your way of looking at the situation.

Take on a positive, Solution Mindset.

Don't be consumed by the problem.

Everyone can complain about how bad things are. It takes a person like you,
of will, to think of how to make them better.

To YOUR Continued Well Being,

Angel R. Suarez

Thursday, February 4, 2010

"Are You Letting Stress Get The Best of You... And Giving Everyone Else The Worst?"

Dear Friend,

Lily Tomlin once said, "For fast-acting relief, try slowing down." And really, this is the closest thing to the truth in stress relief, ever.

What generally happens when you become stressed? Well, you start trying to alleviate the stress instantly. You move in a hundred directionsat once, jumping from task to task. You take on more tasks, build up more obligations. In reality, you're taking upon yourself more potential sources of stress.

When you distress yourself constantly, it only adds fuel to the fire.

One way or another, it's going to happen. But what you must do is first put yourself in the right mindset.

Instead of jumping from issue to issue, leaving one thing unresolved (or poorly handled), stop. Just take a deep breath, look around what you're doing. Before you pick up the phone, or walk into the kitchen, or wherever you have to be for the next task. Just stop, take a breath; slow down.

Maxwell Maltz, author of Psych-Cybernetics, had a somewhat antiquated term. He called it, "Clear the calculator." This is what you must do. Stop, clear the calculator. Put one issue behind you so that you can approach the next task with efficiency.

So, take out a piece of paper. Write down: "I must solve..." And you do this for every stress, every obligation, that comes to you throughout the day.

When you add organization to your life - creating a list - you won't be consumed by chaos. Chaos and stress are friends; chaos and stress create our biggest enemy, crisis.

When you choose to "clear the calculator," when you set something aside to come back to it later... You are no longer in the Problem Persona - you have adopted the Solution Mindset.

And then you can begin moving forward with clarity.

The most effective way to really do this is using my S.U.N.S. Process.

Call (321) 557-6533 or email me at if you'd like to receive my free report.

And remember: slow it down.

To YOUR Continued Well Being,

Angel R. Suarez